“No relationship is perfect…”
This was what Shailene Woodley, 23, said in an interview with The Telegraph.
After Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson, one of the hottest on-screen couple today is Shailene Woodley and Theo James, who plays Beatrice “Tris” Prior and Tobias “Four” Eaton respectively in “The Divergent Series”
Besides their on-screen chemistry, there are interesting relationship lessons that fans could draw from their characters in the movie. So, here are seven of them:
1. Mutual Respect To One Another
In an interview with Glamour.com, Woodley said she appreciated Tris and Four’s relationship because of their mutual respect to one another.
“People love that they support one another so much and respect one another,” Woodley said.
“The Divergent Series” actress also said couples who have respect like Tris and Four looked “sexier to see.”
2. Partners Before Lovers
This is a world where everything happens so fast – food chains, instant messages and emails, travels, and others. Not only that, most relationships today also happen so fast (insert speed dating).
Another aspect that Shailene Woodley loved about Tris and Four’s relationship was both started as “partners before they are lovers.”
The advantage? Well according to Woodley, they have respect at the end of the day, having each other’s backs, being a light to one another, and more.
Basically, there is an advantage of taking it slow and waiting for the right time: A person had more time to know the opposite sex and evaluate feelings.
Then at the end of the day, when the Church bells ring, a couple would be proud to say, “It was worth the wait.”
Anyone would do anything to get what they want. And people can fake love just to get money, fame, or sex.
During an interview, Woodley observed people tend to fall in love with each other because they are “lustfully infatuated with one another” and are easily swayed by romance.
According to her, people tend to forget that life is messy when lust and infatuation get in, eventually realizing too late that everything is no longer right and healthy.
With Tris and Four, there was no infatuation. Shailene Woodley noted that Tris and Four’s relationship was grounded in truth and authenticity.
“It wasn’t based on surface level physical attraction or infatuation,” Woodley said via I AM ROGUE.
4. The Desire To Protect the Other
When a man has found the woman he wants to marry, there is the desire to protect. And this was what Theo James, 30, appreciated about Four – very protective of Tris (not being overprotective).
“…he falls in love with Tris and becomes very protective of her because they have these soul mate qualities,” James said via InStyle.
To which Shailene Woodley saw in James too, saying, “I feel protected by him in a really great way.”
5. Not A Fairy-Tale Love Story
Contrary to what usual movies are showing on how on-screen couples enter romance, Tris and Four did not go through “love at first sight,” which Woodley described as teenage dramatic relationships.
Films about on-screen couples that seemed to give a message of fairy tales are false – there aren’t fairy-tale relationships.
“There’s no drama. I feel like it’s very real and very personal and realistic to how a lot of relationships are,” Woodley said via Collider.
And realistic relationships always require work. “It takes two to tango,” people say.
6. They Complement Each Other In Terms Of Sexuality
Femininity vs masculinity. It is a trap in a relationship when one person tries to dominate the other, forgetting that he/she is in a relationship and not in a race.
With Tris and Four, femininity complemented with masculinity.
“Tris is no way the damsel in distress but that doesn’t detract Four being a masculine character,” Theo James said.
The masculine supporting the feminine and vice versa is definitely a great tandem.
7. Their Relationship Is Not Perfect
As what Shailene Woodley said that “no relationship is perfect,” Tris and Four portray this.
“I find it fascinating and I loved that in Insurgent their relationship is rocky. It’s not 100%” Woodley said.
Fans could see them in difficult situations: Being chased by enemies, scaling walls, arguing, etc. (well, minus the killing of people).
In other words, their relationship is not the type of always being in “cloud nine.” And this is reality – there won’t always be bed of roses.
But for a relationship to survive through the ups and downs, genuine love (a love that isn’t superficial and isn’t based on lust) is required.
A Jewish person once defined love perfectly more than what Tris and Four could describe. He said:
“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”
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