Gwyneth Paltrow surprised her fans with a troll on Conscious Uncoupling on the “Goop” newsletter. She tried to tell the concept of consciously uncoupling while going through the difficult motions of divorce. Read On!
Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin seemed like the unlikeliest couple to ever file for divorce. They were never seen fighting and have two happy children to support. So it was all the more surprising that the couple chose to go for divorce in 2014. Apparently, the separation was so amicable that the couple even spent a Valentine’s Day together along with the kids after the separation. So the press was naturally interested in knowing how a couple can break up and still not try to pull at each other’s hair when they meet again.
The trick, according to Paltrow and Martin, is to go through a five week intensive conscious uncoupling before the partners sign for divorce and separate. The process begins with the person getting the divorce actively and consciously creating the “story” they would tell themselves about why the divorce happened.
The general prevalent tendency is to not think about the divorce at all and cry and blame the other person. Most people end up not noticing the problems that they brought to the table in the relationship. They tell themselves that only their partners were responsible for the pain in the relationship. They therefore resign themselves as victims – people who were taken advantage of in the relationship.
Nothing could be further from the truth. Divorce should be about accepting responsibility. It should also take into account the fact that you actively wallow in self-pity when things go wrong, and you shouldn’t do that. Once you stop blaming yourself and your partner for the tough times together, you learn to come to terms with the fact that perhaps you needed this divorce because you didn’t feel whole inside when you were with this person. That is when you begin to consciously uncouple with the partner. This video explains the method in detail.
Paltrow is a big fan of the therapist, Katherine Woodward Thomas, who created the idea of “conscious uncoupling.”
US magazine reported the news first.
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