Rita Ora has been in the news since her book, “Hot Right Now” has hit the shelves. In her book, the 24-year-old singer discloses being in a relationship with a man who was 12 years older than her when she was just 14 years of age.
So far, the British singer’s take on her childhood relationship has been received with mixed feelings of confusion, sympathy, and criticism by fans. Ora has told The Sun, “I was very new to the whole world of a man and a female… I felt like I had a form of respect, I felt like he listened to me. Now I know he listened to me because he obviously wanted to have sex.”
According to The Huffington Post, Ora stashes complicated feelings in heart about her relationship, but according to the law it was an abusive relationship. Over the days, her story has appeared with headlines such as “Rita Ora Slammed For ‘Child Abuse’ Relationship Comments: ‘I Wanted It“, or “Rita Ora Reveals She Was Sexually Active At 14“.
Every new headline seems to be a dichotomy and it depicts an inability by the media to comprehend or frame her childhood relationship in a right manner. During such state of utter jeopardy, where the media is in no consensus about what the singer has gone through, intellectuals are looked upon to clear any perplexity.
The “I Will Never Let You Down” singer confesses that she has realized now that she was manipulated by her then boyfriend, but she says at fourteen she “wanted it”.
“I don’t want to say I suffered, because I wanted it”, she says. “I don’t want to say that I was forced to do it. I don’t want people to think I was abused but I was definitely more mature than I should have been at 14.”
If Ora says she wanted it, the whole idea of her being abused is dismissed somehow. Does Ora want others to rethink on what should be considered legally right and wrong in a man and underaged girl relationship? Things can be the other way around too. Read to get clarifications.
Considering it that Ora does not recognize her relationship with a man then as an abusive relationship, a rep for the UK charity National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children blamed the singer for being unable to “think about the effect [her] words” would have on those in tender age dealing with the kind of abuse.
Over the days, many have meditated over Ora’s story and also listened to what some bigwigs and media reports are saying. Many would conclude that Rita Ora definitely was given attention by a man who wanted some sex from her in exchange. Now, she feels bad that attention she got was only an exchange for sex.
This is definitely child abuse and Ora is living in a state of denial. And now there are ghosts in her mind that come back to haunt her. Ora should not be criticized by the media, institutions, or fans if she is not able to identify that she has been abused as a child. Sexual abuse is always personal and a person takes time to come to terms with what actually has happened to him or her.
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